Birth Doula Services

Oh Baby!
 
Birth Doula Services

Click here to edit subtitle

Blog

view:  full / summary

A simple hair tie

Posted on February 22, 2016 at 6:50 PM Comments comments (0)

Do you ever have that fleeting thought in a given situation, though you'd not tell a soul, "something just isn't right." I've not had too many of those times, but when I have they are always right. A mother's instinct, woman's intuition, gut feeling...whatever it may be, it's almost as if, I believe, God set that there to help ease the load of what is to happen.

 

Last night, Saturday the 20th, Jared and I went to bed and I had this odd thought as I was pulling my hair out of its ponytail for bed, "I should keep my hair tie on my wrist in case I need it if we go anywhere in the middle of the night." It was such a random thought it surprised me and almost left me a little lost on why I thought that. I went to bed knowing that the next day would be putting me at 11 weeks pregnant, almost out of the "danger zone" as many call that first trimester. But yet I just couldn't shake the feeling that something wasn't right and to keep that darn hair tie on my wrist.

 

Fast forward a few hours later, 4am to be exact, when I wake up and have another thought to just go to the bathroom. I looked at my hair tie, put my hair up and off to the bathroom I go only to find I'd begun the difficult process of enduring yet another miscarriage. Waking up Jared I felt panicked yet calm enough to tell him what was happening and begin deciding what to do. We quickly called my sister-in-law, Leah, to see if she might be able to come over and be with the girls when they woke up. She was to our house and ready to go as if she had been waiting all along, but she's also just awesome like that and always quick on her toes. :)

 

Now, let me pause there and give you some back story: Our first miscarriage, which was 5 years ago this August, was quite literally awful. Our ER experience was awful, the doctors and nurses were very calloused and not exactly the friendliest of people...so that being said, I was not too terribly fond on having to go to the ER. I even work for a doctor's office and frequently find myself getting upset at even the thought of potentially having to see my own doctor. I've always believed in just leaving sickness/ailments alone and let them run their course, no doctor needed. But this was obviously very different.

 

We arrived at the ER and were greeted by some of the sweetest receptionists and triage nurses I've honestly ever encountered. Upon being put into our room, the nurse said many times she was so sorry for our loss and also reassured us that this was not our fault. So at this point we had multiple people in and out, every one of them taking the time to talk with us and genuinely care about what was happening. I was so very blown away by the meaningful dialogue and listening ears we encountered during this stay, I will forever be grateful to that staff for bringing so much peace to us during that time.

 

Anyway, as you can imagine, tests were run and all the usual stuff that needed to be done to ensure my body was doing what it needed to do in order to heal itself. After those tests came back normal and the doctors felt good enough, I was discharged. Obviously, at this point I was just about starving. So that good ol' husband of mine and I decided to head over to Panera for a bite to eat. About 10mins into our time at Panera I was sitting at the table across from Jared and felt my sight and hearing begin to go out, my arms became tingly and a severe bout of nausea set in. I'm sure I completely freaked Jared out as he was attempting to wave his arms in front of me and almost have to catch me. So! Back to ER we went! I was monitored for another couple hours just to ensure my blood pressure didn't plummet like it had at Panera causing the episode. The nurse we had (a guy named Tori) might literally rival even the sweetest midwives I've met during my time of doula-ing. He was absolutely incredible! He was informative, caring, and also so good at lightening a mood. If you ever meet a male nurse named Tori (not sure of spelling) from Nebraska Medicine, I highly encourage you to thank him for choosing the profession he is in. Because he rocked it!

 

We left, came straight home and opened the door to a completely cleaned apartment. My sister-in-law is absolutely AMAZING! And I cannot even begin to express just how thankful I am for her existence in my life, and not just because she cleaned and watched our kids!

 

So, why do I type all of this out? Why give you the details of such an awful experience? Because I am one of those people who has to process everything out in this kind of way. There are times as people we live through experiences and it all seems as if it was just a dream. I often blog and write because it brings experiences in every form back down to earth and allows for the grieving and healing process to take place. I have way too many people in and out of my life who have not taken any time to really process a said experience, and I see what it does to them and how it has affect their life. We are emotional creatures, and that's ok! Learn to embrace that. And emotions can be such a difficult thing to navigate, and that is why I choose to blog/write. My heart learns to accept the grieving instead of stuffing it away and as time allows I begin to heal as I understand what has happened. I also write these blogs to help be an encouragement to others whom have experienced loss. May you take the time to grieve and heal; know there is no time limit on that process. Take comfort in knowing there are many of us out there who have experienced this kind of loss, we can come together and be a village who extends an understanding hand as comfort. Please do not be afraid to let your friends and/or family in, allow them to take some of the burden and just hold you during such a time. Let them take the hair tie, pull your hair back and say, "I'm here. I'm not going anywhere. Let your tears flow, I've got you."

 

And as for my own hair tie, it held my hair all day but is currently making my head hurt. Thank you all for taking the time to read and allowing me to grieve and heal. Much love!

A Doulaful Journey

Posted on July 18, 2014 at 9:15 AM Comments comments (0)

Oh! Why, hey there! As many of you know, I'm Anna, the Oh Baby! doula. I figured I should introduce myself for those of you who may be new to Oh Baby!.

 

In the past year, I've been asked by many people about how it was I became a doula, or they'd ask me about how they might vernture into the world of doula-ing. After many inquiries I figured it best to simply write a blog post about myself and how I became Anna the doula and hopefully one day Anna the CNM (Certified Nurse Midwife). :D

 

Just a couple days ago I had an old friend stop by for a few hours. We chatted about life, caught up and of course, talked about some hilarious past memories. One of those memories my friend happen to bring up, "Oh man, do you remember when you absolutely loathed the idea of birth and anything of that nature?" Yes. Believe it or not, I used to be one who hated the idea of being around anything in the birth world, much less HAVING my own birth experiences! There was even a point in life I didn't want to get married. I had this weird dream of being single, living in the Amazon and eventually dying a heroic and dangerous death after saving a person's life. That was what I wanted. ...That is, until I got married to the world's most wonderful man and gave birth to two children. It's funny how much humor life has intertwined in it.

 

Within all of that story in a nutshell was a journey to where I am now. I won't get into it too much as to save details for those of you who would like to sit down to coffee and know more. But I'll give you the "as shortened as I can" version:

 

At a young age, though not wanting to be married or have children, I knew I wanted to serve people. I just didn't know in what capacity this would take place. I've always been a people person, though there were times as a younger kid I didn't always talk much, but I did love being in the presence of many. As I grew older and experienced many different outlets of serving, I eventually came to realized that I was wired to serve people who were in a state of deep need. I found myself trying out different efforts in pursing this passion to serve people, particularly ones that really needed it. I took trips to different countries and figured this would be it, being among the poor and sick, this would be perfect for me! But as it turned out, this wasn't where I was supposed to be. As time went on and different experiences of serving came and went, I came to a state of frustration. If I had this strong love to serve why did it not feel like I was using this gift fully? Why was my gift of encouragement and nurturing not fulfilling others the way I had hoped?

 

Fast forward a few years, I met my husband, married that hunk and eventually got some exciting news from my older sisters: she was having a baby!! My first niece or nephew, the first grandbaby and really the first time I'd actually experience a little person I was related to. Her experience through pregnancy was so inspiring to me! She eventually told me she and her husband would be hiring a doula. "Uh, a what?" She laughed and then told me what a doula was. *insert dramatic pause* My eyes widened, my heart fluttered and I was immediately intrigued. This began my search and contemplation of the world of doula-ing.

 

Years came and went, I researched here and there but not nearly as much as I soon would because...I found out I was pregnant with our first! Yay! I was so excited and thrilled I couldn't help but let the world know at only 6 weeks along at the time. That was a pretty big mistake on my part, but who I was I to know that? I was a young, excited and soon-to-be mom. At 8 weeks along I experienced the toughest time in life I ever knew, a miscarriage. I never knew such heartache, especially heartache for such a little being that I had never met. As my husband and I processed through all of this, I found so much comfort in the many women who came out of "hiding" (so to speak) to tell me of their losses. It was at this point, though I did not full realize it, was more affirmed for a life of working in the birth world.

 

A few months later I found myself taking yet another pregnancy test, scared and convinced I'd loose this one as well. It was positive and I was a nervous, sobbing wreck. I called up the midwife I had seen for the miscarriage to tell of the news, she set up an early appointment for an ultrasound to see how baby was doing. At 7 weeks we were staring at an ultrasound screen seeing of a little bitty baby with a happy, fluttering heartbeat.

 

And so began my search of a doula! Also my search of doula work. We eventually moved to a different state and I ended up delivering at a hospital in Topeka, KS. Involved in this long but beautiful birth was my husband, his sister, our doula and my rockstar midwife. This experience alone was the last stepping stone I needed to venture into doula-ing. 9 months after this birth of our sweet Sonja, I attended a weekend long doula workshop. It was intense, exciting, hard and fulfilling all in one. But it was something I knew I wanted to do! I thought this would surely be an easy journey to certification...but was I wrong! Especially because not long after that workshop I found out I was pregnant with our second baby, Harper. (She was a pleasent surprise, beings as she's only 16 months younger than Sonja) In doing doula work, I figured I'd just start bringing in the dough and making connections with women left and right. But it definitely did not work out that way.

 

Being pregnant AND trying to establish a presence as a doula was by far one of the toughest things I've ever done. Especially in an area where doula's were not quite as known as bigger cities. I worked hard to try and meet with midwives, doctors, childbirth educators and even nurses. Not only am I passionate about building relationships and offering encouragement to expecting moms, but I'm also passionate about building relationships with people in the medical field. No matter what area of Labor and Delivery they work in.

 

My very first client was a young teenage girl; I was nervous and excited at the same time because I had grown fairly close with this girl as she was someone I had already been helping here and there throughout her pregnancy. The big day came, she gave me a call and I switched on doula mode, hopped in the car, turned on my "Doula Jams" playlist on Spotify and drove to the hospital. It turned out to be a beautiful 6 hour birth (I was spoiled!) ending with a very happy and awestruck little family.

 

I felt alive and on top of the world! It was as if the floodgates of my life had been waiting to be opened for YEARS and outpouring finally came down and out. This was it, this was what I had been searching for as my outlet to serve in the capacity I was built with. My heart was full, not just because of how well this birth went, but because of how I felt I was used to be a source of light and encouragement to this beautiful young woman. And each birth had left me in the same state of euphoria after that first one as well.

 

So here I am, writing to you from our new home in Omaha, NE. I'm definitely not at the end of this journey, if anything, this is only the beginning of what may become something more than just doula-ing. To those of you who have asked me for advice in getting started in doula work, know this... It's not easy. It's definitely hard work, physically, mentally and especially emotionally at times. It's not one of those, "make cash quick with little effort" things. There is a lot of effort, but oh man is it SO, SO worth it! While this is an absolute joy in my life, I am beginning to think I am being pruned for something bigger in the future. We'll see! For now, this is story of my "Doula-ful Journey".

(This is a picture of the doll given to each of us ladies at our training. She's "Super Doula". Love seeing this photo!)


 

 


Rss_feed